[Mageia-discuss] Cultural difference: "Let your yes be yes" <---> "It is rude to say no"

[Johnny A. Solbu]

On Thursday 12 July 2012 18:20, Marja van Waes wrote:
> Now that is hard, when you grow up in a "no is rude" area and then move 
> to "Holland". You continue to say "yes", because saying "no" feels like 
> a major sin, but now you're expected to *do* all those thing you said 
> you'd do. :-(

But ofcorse you're expected to keep your promisses. If you know that you ain't goint to, or can't do it, why on earth do you promise to do it in the first place?
That is considered lying where I come from. Sometimes we tell such people to stop this childish behaviour and start growing up.
The concequence of having a society as the described "Holland" society, is that you can't trust people.

Either you can do it and say you'll do it, or you /can't/ do it and say that you can't. Why on earth is that considered to be rude?

No one prommised that the right thing to would be the easy thing to do.
The Right thing to do is to always mean what you're saying. If you don't, you're a lier and can't be trusted.


> How do we cope with such differences within our community?

We should point it out as an unaccepable behaviour.
It should not be acceptable to lie just because one is afraid to say the truth.
There is no such thing as a black or white lie. Either you're lying or you're not.

-- 
Johnny A. Solbu
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