[Mageia-discuss] Cultural difference: "Let your yes be yes" <---> "It is rude to say no"

AL13N alien at rmail.be
Fri Jul 13 20:18:14 CEST 2012


Op vrijdag 13 juli 2012 08:54:45 schreef Wolfgang Bornath:
> 2012/7/13 Marja van Waes <marja11 at xs4all.nl>:
> >> Don't forget that often people will say yes because they would like to
> >> do something, without seriously considering the various demands on their
> >> time. They think it is a good idea, and they want to contribute. (I tend
> >> to be somewhat like that.)
> >> So it is not only people saying "yes" when they mean "no".
> >> And once they have said "yes", like almost everyone, they find it more
> >> difficult to say "no" later on. After all, they still think it is
> >> something that should be done.
> 
> The more it is important that we all realize that we have to
> communicate in clear words and a truthful attitude. If I offered to do
> something and I find it either too time consuming or too difficult - I
> do not wait until others are asking about the progress of the task, I
> explain the situation and act likewise, I'm a grown-up and not in
> first grade anymore. I actually did so when I discovered that I could
> not contribute any more in the same way I used to, and because I did
> all others involved were able to cope with the situation instead of
> facing unwanted delays or worse.
> 
> If we all act up to our core values (where this situation is
> explicitely mentioned!) it will be no big thing for anybody.

I agree with this, though, if we aren't exactly and clear whenever we can, or 
be possible; things will go wrong.

allthough I can understand all the examples in this thread, i would ask all of 
us to be as clear as possible, really. and others maybe to ask to be sure that 
people know what they could be agreeing to.

When stuff goes wrong (i'm sure it will, if it hasn't already), just keep this 
in mind. it might be this and not some direct rude way of attacking other 
people.


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